The first time we have sex with a new partner can be incredibly exciting. There’s the exhilaration of the unknown, the delight of discovering the hidden sweet spots and distinct turn-ons and kinks. But it can also be incredibly nerve-wracking. Will you be sexually compatible? Will they be into the same bedroom fun as you? And can you make that first time explosive without being too aggressive too fast? Take a look at the best sex positions for first time sex.
1. Yab Yum
This position involves sitting up straight looking at each other’s eyes. “She straddles him wrapping her legs around him. I like this position because you both are giving and receiving. It creates instant connection and intimacy,” says Dellepiane, a sex and relationship coach.
2. Woman On Top
“She has more control of the experience, which is helpful in a culture that tends to put much of the pressure to perform on men,” says Dellepiane. This is especially helpful if it’s your first time and you don’t know much about what they like. “She has the opportunity to take charge and show him how fast, slow, hard or soft she tends to like it. This is very important information when you are just getting to know a new partner,” says Dellepiane.
It’s a safe and loving position that helps build trust. “It doesn’t have to be boring. Placing a pillow underneath her butt can increase pleasure by changing the angle. Using your hands to touch different parts of her body can make the sex less genitally focused (like it is in porn.) This can help men to last longer and have more of a total body experience,” Dellepiane says.
4. Alternate Missionary
“You can raise one of her legs or knees so that you’re entering her at a better angle. Think of your body lying on a five-degree rotation from hers,” says Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast. This will also allow more space for a deeper thrust. “Remember, you don’t need to be long to get deep!” says Procida.
“Take a knee! Act like football practice and be on one knee instead of two. You’ll have a better range of motion and better ability thrust deeper. This tweak is also more comfortable than kneeling on two knees with your legs squeezed together,” says Procida. “Give her ass a squeeze. If she moans, give it a (moderate!) slap for good measure,” Procida says.
6. Reverse Cowgirl 2.0
This is a great position for new lovers who aren’t quite comfortable with eye contact during sex. “Take the classic Reverse Cowgirl and have the man bend his knees so that the woman can grind and rub her pelvic area against his lower legs during penetration. He gets a great view and the ability to thrust from below and she gets to control the pace and depth while facilitating the clitoral rubbing that tends to lead to orgasm,” says Astroglide’s resident sexologist, Dr. Jess.
7. Calves Around Neck
This position allows deep penetration, access to her G-spot, and eye contact, says James. “If you want to be a little more adventurous but not come off to strong, have her rests her calves on your shoulders, and if she’s extra flexible the position can be even more fun. You can deeply penetrate in this position so thrust in slowly at first to measure her pain. It’s a great way to also reach her G-spot, as well as still maintain eye contact,” says James.